Although the bride is the star of the show, when small kids are involved they definitely share the spotlight. With four nieces and nephews of my own (and two more on the way), I definitely understand the desire to include these little darlings in the ceremony. There is nothing more adorable than a crinoline clad two year old toddling down the aisle. However, for most kids under five the odds of achieving this goal unassisted and staying put during the ceremony aren’t very high.
Being separated from mom and dad during the processional can be upsetting. The long walk through the sand into a sea of unfamiliar faces is often scary or distracting. Not to mention remaining still and quiet for 20-45 minutes isn’t something most 2-4 year olds have mastered. There are ways to include toddlers in the ceremony and with proper planning the experience can be a positive one for all.
Kids under 3 do best when escorted by a familiar family member or friend. Holding signs and throwing petals on command while walking on uneven surfaces can be challenging. Consider decorating a wagon and having older kids pull the younger ones. Wagons with thick tires actually do quite well in the sand. Once down the aisle, allow little ones to play quietly on the ground. A few plastic toys placed strategically to the side typically does the trick. Assign an adult not involved in the wedding party to chaperone and keep them entertained during the ceremony. Remember, a wandering child under adult supervision is alway better than a crying child sitting in the audience. Lastly, recognize kids are cute regardless of what they do.
Although an impromptu hug wasn’t in the plan I think Aunt Andrea and Uncle Henry would agree it definitely made for the perfect ending to their ceremony.
Location: Courtyard Marriott, Carolina Beach